Coping with an Arrogant

Everybody who works with many people has great chances to deal with at least one arrogant colleague. In case there’s such a person in your surroundings, you were probably in a situation to postpone your job or not doing it properly, just because you had to cooperate with an arrogant colleague. If you’re really not so lucky and you sit in the same office with such person, your working time probably becomes an annoying experience. Also, it can be really exhausting and stressful when you have to spend 8 to 10 hours working with someone like that.

I know how it feels because I am in middle of such situation.

Working at least 10 hours a day, I had couple of colleagues who were more or less arrogant. At first I reacted on their arrogance as others.  Such behaviour quite irritated me so I myself was arrogant which made the communication almost impossible. However, later on, when I realized the form of mindset of such people, I decided to change the tactics and our relation significantly changed.

The manner I shall describe in the following lines worked very well for me. I succeeded to establish good relations, maybe pretended achieving this success but at least it’s working, with almost all arrogant people and we functioned very well. However, in case the manner I’ll describe doesn’t function, the second step would be to talk with arrogant colleague and explain them that the arrogance bothers you. The reason that this is not the first step is the fact that arrogant persons usually have strong ego and even if you carefully explain them you don’t like their behaviour, things may become worse.

In the end, if nothing of the above-mentioned gives results, you can talk about your problem with someone from the management or maybe close friend who can understand this level of frustration having such personality in your work environment.

From some life learning, arrogant people often underrate other people; they’re cold and stubborn, always wanting to be like they wish. This makes the communication hard, which makes all the work a real nightmare.

People usually believe that such persons possess high level of self-esteem and self-confidence, but that’s just an illusion. Those are the persons with low self-esteem whose arrogance came as a consequence of frustrations, rage, anxious states, or depression.

Their arrogance is actually a compensatory behaviour, which is the consequence of insecurity. And this is a fact with no doubt about it. 

Arrogant people continuously fight with their ego, wanting to satisfy it at all costs. However, as ego has its limitless needs for self-assertion, such persons are often not being aware of the fact that it is a losing battle.

Trying with them, firstly, if that person tries to humiliate you, be cold and react with the ridicule. For example, if such person tells that some of your proposals are absurd and worthless, you should simply smile and say something like “You must have been sleeping badly, or maybe you were drinking last night”. Believe it or not, it worked with me. I just replied and it was that red rounded face I ever saw.

So, be cold as nothing happened and at the same time behave as if you thought him as being an unserious “child”. In this way you will become superior. You will show that you’re cold and self-esteemed, and that person craves for those features. That’s how you’ll gain respect or sometime attention.

If an arrogant colleague does “some work” properly, approve work. Tell hat it’s very well done and it wasn’t easy. Such persons crave their work to be approved.

I’m not saying to be insincere but should simply speak highly of such person whenever deserves that even if we don’t usually do that.

If there’s some team work to be done, you should voluntary apply to work with arrogant person. Another challenge that could seems unusual but it will wake up the anger inside you.

Also I know this may sound incredible and you’re telling yourself “No way” but just try and you’ll see what will happen. This will be quite a surprise for an arrogant person and will be pleased. Arrogant people wish all the people to support them, but their behaviour causes opposite effect.

As arrogant persons strongly wish the approval of other people, they will actually start looking at you as someone who respects their work and provide support to them. Soon you will see that their behaviour towards you is gradually changing, and they will become kind and closer to you. By showing that you’re above their provocations, you will get the respect of such persons.

This all will help you to deal with hard days at work in an easy way. Who knows, maybe such a colleague will become your best business partner or else will become your worst nightmare enemy.