Accept what you can’t change and change what you can !

When it comes to success, our eyes often lead us astray. It’s hard not to feel like the most successful people are those with the biggest houses, the most expensive cars, and the most influential friends. Regardless of what we achieve, there’s always someone with more, and this can make you feel like you’re losing. The problem isn’t our lack of toys; it’s believing that toys indicate true success.

Real success is about who we are and how far you’ve come. If we ever worry that you’re not as successful as we should be, we may be evaluating ourselves against the wrong criteria. Sometimes we just need a reminder as to what we’ve really accomplished in life. The success indicators that follow will help us do just that.

We all know “successful” people who act like they’re the center of the universe. It’s their world and the rest of us just live in it…right? That’s not success. True success requires the ability to feel empathy—to realize that other people’s feelings and dreams are just as important as ours, and we cannot succeed without them.

Even though, Hope and optimism are essential components of a happy life. If we dwell on the things that go wrong, we become bitter and resentful. When that happens, we fail—no matter what we may have achieved. Real success means always seeing the bright side and believing we have the power to make even the worst situations better.

On the other side of our life, we’ve learned that the only people who never fail are those who don’t try. When we fail, we don’t automatically assume that we are a failure. Instead, we embrace each failure as an opportunity to learn something—and then we move on. If we still struggle with this at times, know that we’ll never experience true success until we learn to embrace failure. Our mistakes pave the way for our success by revealing when we’re on the wrong path. The biggest breakthroughs typically come when we’re feeling the most frustrated and the most stuck. It’s this frustration that forces us to think differently, to look outside the box and see the solution we’ve been missing.

Well if we are too much optimistic then we should keep things in perspective. Sometimes bad things happen. It’s part of life. For most of us, however, our very worst day would seem like a vacation to somebody who has real problems—like not having enough to eat, or trying to survive a civil war. Locking your keys in the car—or even getting passed over for a promotion—aren’t that bad once we learn to develop perspective. If we’ve mastered the ability to keep your problems in perspective, mark it down as a huge success.

Not to forget to ask for help when we need it. Refusing to ask for help, no matter how much we’re struggling, is a sign of emotional immaturity. Asking for help means that we no longer feel like we have something to prove by being perfect. It shows we aren’t afraid of people discovering our weaknesses and we understand no one succeeds alone.

And suddenly we realize that life isn’t a zero-sum game. It’s not a see-saw, either. Just because somebody else achieves a big success, that doesn’t mean we suffer a loss in equal proportion. We just didn’t win that particular time. One sure sign of success is the ability to celebrate others’ achievements with sincere enthusiasm.

Simply we can tell the difference between drama and excitement.
Remember the days when stable relationships were boring, and we quickly got tired of anyone who treated us as they should? If that kind of “drama” is a thing of the past, congratulations. If we prefer stability and depth to drama, we are succeeding. And this might result to no longer care what other people think. We only worry about what other people think when we still feel like we have something to prove. Conversely, we know we’ve “made it” when we don’t worry about that anymore—when we’re true to ourselves and our principles, and satisfied with our life. We know we’ve made it when we understand that other people’s opinions are just that—opinions. They have no effect on reality. They don’t change who or what you are.

There’s a difference between pessimism and practicality. If there’s a hurricane headed our way, there’s nothing we can do to stop it. But once we accept that the hurricane is coming, we can start working to mitigate its effects. If a company downsizes and you get laid off, every moment spend in denial just delays whatever is waiting over the horizon. We should be able to move on only when we start exploring our options and making plans to change what we can. Taking responsibility for changing the things we don’t like about our life is one of the biggest indicators of success.

There’s no sense in feeling like a failure just because we think we should have a better job, a bigger house, or a nicer car. Real success comes from the inside, and it’s completely independent of circumstance.